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This is the third of a series of four articles expounding the 16 great myths and mistakes most people associate with the subject of success.
Summarizing the last two articles, we covered such myths as... success is difficult or takes time or lies somewhere in the distant future or a state only obtainable by the chosen few.
We also covered other myths and illusions such as... you can't always get what you want or you first have to pay 'your dues' or that it is impossible to be successful in everything you do.
Once you abandon any one of these myths, you will soon discover that life becomes easier, and success appears to come to you rather than you chasing after it.
Below are the following four myths/mistakes/excuses in the series that may be currently hindering your birthright to success.
Take a look, and identify possible areas where you may be currently sabotaging your success and then simply drop these impeding ideas by choosing to replace them with better, more productive beliefs.
9. Success means doing it perfect
This myth is my absolute all-time favorite.
Believing that things can be done in a perfect manner is a ridiculous concept, yet so many people fall into this psychological trap.
There is nothing created by man which is perfect and there never will be.
Here is a mental exercise:
What is so important that it needs to be done perfectly?
When you arrive at the answer, please let me know.
I was busy with this myth for years.
Students of mine, suffering from perfectionism, have been preoccupied with this illusion for years, and up to this point in time, I have never received a single appropriate answer.
There is only one possible result relating to perfectionism.
Inactivity.
I have three words of advice for you, if you're suffering from perfectionism:
Get Over It!
Observe nature.
Everything in nature is perfect, and yet it is in a state of perpetual change. Nothing remains constant.
The ocean is at all times in movement and yet always perfect.
So are you.
You are the perfect you.
Nobody can be YOU as perfectly as you can.
So abandon the illusion and choose, instead, the creation process.
And by the way, any imperfect manifestation is infinitely more successful than a perfect idea or concept.
10. Someone else is doing it better (or can do it better)
There always will be someone else doing something. So what?
In what way, does this simple reality affect your individual process of becoming successful in whatever you'd like to create?
Does the fact that your friend has a wonderful relationship and beautiful kids, mean that your quest to create likewise is in some way impeded?
Does the fact that the Mona Lisa is already painted, mean that there is no more space left in the world for your masterpiece?
Comparing yourself to and with others will without doubt, always invalidate your creativity.
You are different than everybody else. You are unique!
No one can be YOU better than you, and you are your own contribution to the world.
If we were all the same, there wouldn't be any necessity for creativity in the world.
You don't have to be the first in order to be successful.
You don't even have to be better than others in order to be successful, even if this is what you were conditioned to believe from an early age.
The real ingredients of success are to care about what you're doing.
Be passionate and enthusiastic about it, and committed to making the world notice it.
Forget the illusion of outside competition.
There's enough space for all of us here on this planet...
11. Success has to happen on the first attempt
What nonsense!
Very little deemed later as successful, happened the first time round.
When you were a baby it took you months of falling down on your pampered ass, until you learned to walk those hesitant first steps on the way to the mobility you now take for granted.
Edison experimented with thousands of coils until he finally got it right and the first light bulb was created.
All children, great inventors and creators have high tolerance to mistakes and 'failures'.
It's only when we grow up that we lose this tolerance, and with it, our willingness to create success.
You try the first time to get your driving license, and you fail the first exam - you'll probably try again. Maybe even 3 or 4 times. But that's it.
If you were forced to do your driving exam a few more times before you pass, you'll probably just give it up.
People do this constantly in relationships.
They try once or twice or maybe three times, and if it fails again, they give up.
If we would have to learn to walk as grown ups, all of us would probably keep on crawling...
Creating success is about tossing everything you've got into whatever it is you wish to achieve.
And... if the result is not what you've expected, creating success is about trying it all over again with the necessary corrections, until you get it where you want it to be.
12. I failed before, I'll fail again
Somebody once said to me, "success is just a series of failures."
I like the concept. It gives failure a better name.
Being intelligent is nice, but not enough.
Your intelligence is just your potential.
Experience is what actualizes this intelligence and transforms it into wisdom.
Your past failures are all part of your life experience.
You become richer with experience every day that you live.
And this experience can never be lost.
I'm not talking about material abundance here, but about experience and its correlation to wisdom. Every day that passes by you're wiser through experience and therefore creating success becomes easier every time.
Most successful people have had major failures in their lives before they achieved their current status of success.
Perhaps it was a bankruptcy (or two), a heartbreaking divorce, etc...
Your past failures are your lessons of future success. They were your tuition fees in the university of life. Cherish them, learn from them and they will never happen again. Fail to do so, and you'll probably create these same errors continually until you learn the lesson that needs to be learned.
One more thing to remember when fear stops you from really committing to your success.
If you're reading these words, then your past 'failures' haven't kill you thus far.
So what is the great drama?
So your spouse left you once before. Yes, it is possible that it may happen again. But if you won't allow yourself to get into relationship again, you'll manifest your fear of being alone anyway...
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Life is too short to be wasted with excuses.
Success is your birthright.
As the Nike phrase says:
Just do it!
Article by: Nisandeh Neta, founder of
Open Circles, an international center for personal-growth and
leadership.
Visit http://www.opencircles.nl
to learn more about how you can make a difference, through living
your dreams.
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