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This is the first article in a series of four articles expounding the 16 great myths and mistakes most people associate with success. Learn how you can avoid these traps and turn your life into a success story.
People complain that they cannot succeed, using phrases such as "I'll never make it", "I can't", "I don't have whatever it
takes..." or
my all-time favorite, "I'm not good enough".
So little time, so many excuses.
As long as you maintain your excuses, you never will reach your goals.
So snap out of it!
Take a look at the following list of excuses, identify yours and discard them in the direction of
oblivion...
1. You believe you can't be successful
As a result of past conditioning, most people believe they can't be successful.
We've all experienced failure at some time in our lives. Whether it was an unsuccessful attempt to pass your driving exam, a bad mark in school exams, or a disastrous relationship, we can all relate to the feeling of trying to accomplish something and failing.
We interpreted those individual 'failures' as "I am a failure" or "I'll never make it" or "I always f**k it up in the end".
It is in these interpretations, where the danger lurks, not in the actuality of the 'failures' themselves.
A failure is simply, a result, which differs from your expectation.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Of course you can be successful.
You are already successful in every important area of your life.
You can walk, talk, read, write, take care of yourself, make contact with others, make enough money for living,
etc... etc...
You were not born with all these skills.
You acquired them successfully throughout your life.
Nobody did this on your behalf .You had to do it yourself.
Talking or reading and writing are probably more complicated and difficult than any other skills you'll ever need to master. And you acquired them as a child.
Today you are more skilled and prepared to deal with life.
2. Success is hard work / success is difficult
How many times have you heard that success is a hard work?
This phrase is so widely used that it became a clich?. A sentence you were conditioned to believe has become the truth, simply through never ending repetition.
Let me ask you a question I often ask in my seminars.
What would you consider more as a success: a result that was achieved after a long struggle and hard work, or a result that you achieved easily and quickly?
Most people's first respond is that result achieved through hard work is superior to a result that was achieved easily.
This shows how disturbed we are!
The two results are exactly the same, but we value more that which was achieved through hard
work...
This not only defies logic, it is madness!
Success is natural.
Our expectations and our disturbed value system conditions us to believe that success is hard work and difficult. This faulty belief system ensures that we won't easily succeed thus making the vicious circle complete.
3. Success takes time
Time is a concept we developed long time ago in order to make sure that we can meet with each
other...
When we believe that success must take time, sure enough - it takes time.
Change this concept and you'll notice, success happens in no time.
Why should a success take more time than a failure?
I got rid of my 20-year asthma "condition" in a short 5-minute healing session I gave myself. That was almost 10 years
ago...
I received a governmental grant of US$ 285,000 for my software company, based on a mini-business-plan I created in 72 hours. I was 21 at that time, with no experience, no product, and no nothing except this 25-page document.
I've started leading my first personal-growth group while still being a student and two years before I was authorized officially to lead this group. In these two years preceding authorization I led via that process, more people than some of my teachers did in whole their career.
Success can take time, but it is not a pre-requisite.
4. Success is for the chosen few
"I'm insufficiently educated", "my upbringing was not supportive enough", "I'm too old / too young", "I'm a man / a woman" - all these and a ton of other external factors play major role in people's excuses as to why they cannot be successful.
Success is always in present time.
It never notices where you came from or what you did previously.
History gives numerous examples of the most successful people who were not born into privileged status with the proverbial silver spoon in their mouths:
During the eighty-four years of his life, Thomas Edison patented 1,093 inventions! But when he was seven years old - he left school after his teacher told his mother that, as a student, Edison was dull, confused and couldn't learn.
Albert Einstein's parents were worried because he was so slow to learn to speak. During his early school years, he did not excel and hated having to attend classes regularly and take the prerequisite exams.
You have at your disposal today anything you need in order to be successful in what ever you are willing to create. The only thing that will stand in your way is your convictions and concepts.
More often than not, people use their past to excuse their unwillingness to create for themselves a successful life.
They often would come to my groups, trying to find out WHY is it that they feel 'f**ked up'.
I usually tell them, "You want to know WHY? I'll tell you WHY!"
"When you were young, your mother threw you 3 times in the air but caught you only twice. This is WHY you're fu**ed up!"
So, what now?
Do you wander happily through life having obtained your very own 'fu**ed up certificate' to make you feel better about not living the life you deserve to?
Don't fall into this trap!
You deserve and are capable of success just like anybody else.
Just go and do it. NOW!
Article by: Nisandeh Neta, founder of
Open Circles, an international center for personal-growth and
leadership.
Visit http://www.opencircles.nl
to learn more about how you can make a difference, through living
your dreams.
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