Motivational Article

This workshop I discovered, originated in Holland.
The choice was immediate. Destination: The Nederland.
Not knowing what to do from that point, we simply had to trust.
Soon afterwards, we returned home to sell the car, rent out the apartment and pack.
Within that same week, my partner received an offer to work in Holland, for her old employer, which included an advanced role, an increased salary, and a house in Amsterdam.

Officially, it takes a few years of preparation for the "qualifications" to lead the workshop I had done in India, yet within six months, I was leading my first group, with 40 grateful participants.

I don't have wings and a halo. But at that period, situations in my life "conspired" in both magical and amazing ways, and I felt totally connected to the universe's greater power.

This experience of connection is often referred to as being 'in the flow'.
When we are in flow, (co)-incidences line up, events fall into place, and obstacles melt away.

Most of us have had experiences of being in the flow.
In those times, we know we're in the right place at the right time doing the right thing.
We feel both excited and at peace, somehow connected to something, which is bigger than ourselves. Life becomes full of meaning, magic and purpose. We feel alive, joyful and grateful.

But for most of us, it doesn't happen too often or for long enough.
We have glimpses of flow, and then we lose it again.

This doesn't have to be.
It is possible to learn how to consciously create the flow in your life. The means by which this is achieved is through synchronicity - those times when outside events, which appear not to have any connection, come together and connect us with something, which is larger than ourselves.

There are three basic types of synchronicities:

1. Meaningful coincidences - you thought about somebody, the phone rings, and your 'somebody' is on the line. It might not be meaningful for that individual, but it sure is for you.

2. Significantly related patterns of chance - you win the lottery or you are involved in an accident for the third time this year. In both cases the universe is trying to tell you something - you better listen!

3. A casual connecting principle - last week you had a fight with your partner, which is still bothering you. When you're in the car, you turn the radio on and the first song is 'it's hard for me to say I'm sorry'. A solution pops up without any apparent connection to the issue.

When synchronicity happens - follow it!
When you hear the song on the radio, pick up your mobile phone and tell your partner that you are sorry, no matter how difficult it may be.
See what happens.

Use synchronicity for guidance as well as confirmation.

A few years ago I was walking alone in the woods. At a certain point the path reached an intersection. I hesitated for a moment, realizing I was totally lost. I remembered reading somewhere that you must follow the path, which is more alive. So I looked up, and at a short distance on the path on the left side stood a deer. To cut a long story (and quite a long walk) short, I followed the deer, a rabbit, a crow and another rabbit, and I got back... to my car.
No coincidence really...

When I make an important decision or take an important step I always look to see what comes my way in the next hours or days. If the synchronicities in my life are 'positive', I assume that I have chosen correctly, and I continue further, with greater confidence. If the immediate events (connected or not) are 'negative', I will slow down and re-examine my steps.

For a while our business didn't meet our expectations.
Something was stuck.
At one point we were having a spontaneous 'radical honesty' session. We said things to each other that we withheld for a while. It was both confronting and emotional, and towards the end - the phone rang. Picking up the call brought us an opportunity to create a unique in-company training.
The universe sent us a clear message that our clearing process was a step in the right direction.

I believe that synchronicity is a form of communication between the greater reality (call it god, the universe, higher self, spirit, whatever...) and you.
The purpose of this communication is to constantly support you being in the flow.

In order to enjoy more and more moments of flow, your first step is to listen.
Pay attention and notice all those small synchronicities that happen constantly around you.
Acknowledge them, and stop using the words: luck, coincidence, fortunate, unfortunate, etc...
The more you listen, the more you hear.

Your next step will be to act upon the synchronicities.
Maybe suddenly, in the middle of the day, you have an urge to go to the pub and have a beer.
And maybe you're not into pubs, or into beer or not the type to go to the pub and drink at this time of day.
Do yourself a favor. On this occasion, get out of the office, walk to the nearest pub and order that beer.
Maybe, your prince(cess) on the white stallion is sitting next to you, feeling lonely and... hating beer.

No coincidences really...